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310 Scotland Road or now 111 Terrill Avenue, South Orange, NJ (Grandma’s House)
The following article was submitted by Charlie Engler. It was posted in the real estate
section of The Sunday Star-Ledger, 11/7/04.

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Some interesting historical notes from Cousin Charlie about 310.

Charles Henry Engler did not supply any of the materials, did not live there and
didn’t buy the house. Grandma brought the house circa 1925 some years after it
was built, which was probably around 1910-15.  Mr. Engler (Grandpa) died in
1923 when the family still lived on Prospect Street in what is not the Elks home.
For some great snapshots detailing the remarkable restoration go to Chad’s site
wonderful website:

Words from Cousin Charlie:

First, Jeff and Claire Miller put on a wonderful Christmas party at their new (century old)
home in Bernardsville and there are some candid shots of many of the attendees.....note
that some guests came thousands of miles, so as to avoid the recently instituted edict that
if you miss 20 years in a row, you are declared AWOL. 

And then, on Christmas Eve, Michael Parlapiano and Agnieszka Grzybowska, the owners
of Grandma’s house, very graciously allowed a very small group to intrude briefly on their
holiday schedule for a glimpse of the great progress they have made (and untold fortunes
they must have spent) restoring the property. They promised a later opportunity for an
extensive group tour. Of particular note is the fine condition of the exterior including the yards, 
the upgraded back stairway, which now starts in the butler's panty and includes a powder
room replacing the "secret stairs",  the beautiful breakfast area and windows replacing the
kitchen pantry, and the leaded windows throughout, most of which had to be replaced using
special glass made to look 100 years old..  (The colors in some pictures are not quite as muted
and as light as the actual colors.)  The wood beams and paneling were all refinished over a
couple of years by two live-in workers, and sections of the entry hall floor had to be replaced
(due to water leakage) with original flooring from the third floor.  The electric wiring was
upgraded, using the original steel piping which brought all circuits up to the third floor. 
Michael described the whole project as "insane!", but their two young children seemed to love it!

Our hosts are extremely interested in any pictures or historic recollections anyone has of the house. 
You could mail them to them or send them to me for forwarding. 

The ambitious owners of 111 Terrill Avenue, in conjunction with the Montrose Park Historic
District, held a Spring Chamber Concert and Silent Auction, including a massive High Tea,
on Sunday, May 22 from 3 to 5:30 pm. Contribution is $75. 

In talking with Michael, only 85 tickets were printed and so they will not have room for a 
large Engler attendance, but would very pleased to have some family representation.  I told
him I would be away, but that Betsey would attend.

(He remembered our request for an Engler tour, and we agreed that would best be
postponed until later this year.)

If you are interested, please Email me and I will get you a copy of the invitation and details.

Best wishes for a great summer!   


Cousin Betsey attended the concert and here in her thoughts –

“It was quite wonderful. The house looked glorious, the "high tea" was catered by folks in
cutaways, the silent auction items were on tables in the hall and in the library and the concert
was in the living room, chairs set up facing the sun parlor end where the rebuilt Steinway lives.
The music was lovely and the acoustics were awesome in that room. The architect was there,
as was the young man who rebuilt the Steinway, as well as lots of historical society members,
all of the young and hungry Wall Street ages. Quite a glamorous gathering of people, myself
excepted, of course. But it's nice being able to play the dowager role. Lots of folks wanted
to know about the "early" days.

Michael plans to do another concert in October. He had had Gabriella's piano recital the day
before this event; about 16 very young people and their parents. I guess that was equally
successful. So grand to have the house being used like this. I took a seat near the window seat,
so I could look outside at the new full leaves through the glorious leaded glass windows as I
listened to the music. The rain showers only added to the afternoon; I felt quite lucky to be there.



The annual Engler Family Christmas party was held at Jeff and Claire Miller's new home in
Bernardsville, New Jersey on December 19th. The home is a beautiful classic home with a
wonderful layout for entertaining.

It was a cold and icy evening, yet a large contingent arrived to find the home warm and
beautifully decorated. The food was delicious. Everyone looked great and had a fun time
saying hello.

Aunt Pat was there, happy to be with a large group of her immediate family including Bruce,
Brett, Heidi, her fiance' Dave, and her three daughters from Florida. Charlie and June represented
the "senior" of the grandchildren, and there were numerous great-grandchildren and a few
great-great grandchildren too. 

Attendees included Peter and Lynn Kinkel and their daughter and son, Al and Janet Miller
and there three sons, Cliff Murtha, Liz Stabile and her son and daughter, Ben and Janine Murtha
and their two daughters, Bob and Sandy Engler, Robin and Tom Hackett and son Tyler, Gil and
Barbara, Keith and Sandie, Ken and Enid down from Lake George and Peter and Carole in from California.                                            

(L-R) Sandy, Carole, Gil, and Barbara with Aunt Pat
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(L-R) Heidi’s daughters, Heidi and Charlie
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(L- R)  Peter, Bruce, Enid and Brett
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Bobbye and Charlie spent three days in Williamsburg, VA back in November. Charlie
says sailing was great all last summer but did they ever find a winter vacation spot on
Sanibel Island? Maybe this coming winter?

Danny & Suzanne Harris proudly announce the birth of Suzanne Jourdan Harris, born
on December 15, 2004 at 4:48 p.m.  Little Suzanne weighed in at 9 pounds, 0.4 ounces
and was 21 inches long.

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 From Suzanne Harris, “If you haven't heard, I am no longer with McRaes as of Friday,
May 13th. From now on, you can email me at this address
(my Home account) until I get set up at my new job.  Saks Inc sold the Proffitts/McRaes
division to Belk Department stores, and having gone through one department store buyout
that was no fun at all, I accepted an opportunity with Target Corporation as an Executive
Team Leader. We will be here in Pensacola for my training and then we aren't sure if I'll
be offered a store here in town or if we'll move, but either way we are very excited! This
opportunity couldn't have come at a better time from a better company!” Suzanne started
her new job on Monday, May 23rd so keep your fingers crossed for her.

News from the Loretta and Chad…

Hard as it is to believe there is news from Oklahoma. We are one hour and twenty years
behind the East Coast.  Loretta and I started teaching people how to scuba dive - after diving
ourselves for a long time (about 20 years now). As you might expect there is a lot of training
involved in teaching people how to do something that can be dangerous if not done properly.
For a while we taught for a local dive shop and then started our own business called Dive Tulsa.
It’s been underway for two-and-a-half years and so far we’ve taught about 500 people. It has
us at lakes on most weekends and evenings from April to October. This is only a hobby (yea, sure). 
Anyway it’s easy to see all about it on our web site

One more item, Chad put a lot of photos from Aunt Ruth’s albums and of Grandma’s house on the
family web site It would be nice if anyone wanted to send me photos that
they wanted to share with everyone. It’s great if people have scans but they can also send prints. If
they have photos to share they can be sent to me at 2404 West Fort Worth Street, Broken Arrow,
OK 74012 or emailed to


The following was submitted by Barbara Engler (Arthur Jrs. first wife) right before the holidays but
too late for the last issue:

2004 was a busy year preparing the 7th edition of my text, Personality Theories. Actual copies are
scheduled to appear in spring 2005. However, there was still time to enjoy traveling to visit children
and grandchildren as well as for warmth and other delights.

Hawaii was the big travel destination this year. In March my sister Peg, a friend Marilyn Mackie, and
I enjoyed a Tauck Tour, “The Best of Hawaii”, which visited all four major islands. I loved all of them!
It was wonderful to learn more about the landscape, history, and culture of these welcoming and friendly
Aloha people. I was especially enchanted by Maui, awed by the magnificent beauty of the Iao Valley,
and taken back into history by the old whaling town of Lahaina. From our hotel window in Princeville
on Kauai we had a wonderful view of the cliff used to portray the numinous island, “Bali Hai” in
“South Pacific”. I strolled through the town of Hanalei, with the music of “Puff the Magic Dragon”
running through my head. And of course we enjoyed a Hawaiian luau! Tauck does a superb job.
I’m looking forward to doing more traveling with them.

One of my goals in retirement has been to catch up with my formal academic fields of concentration:
Bible, religion and theology. My teaching and writing had led me to shift my focus to psychology and
pedagogy for most of my professional career. During the last four years, I’ve been enjoying participating
in a cycle of study under the auspices of the University of the South. With a local church group of high
powered professionals, I have been reviewing: The Old Testaments, Church History, and Contemporary
Theology. It’s been a very pleasant way of getting back up to date.

During the summer, while I was at the shore, the upstairs of my home in Short Hills was painted and
redecorated under the skillful guidance of my friend, Jane Riedel, who had done my first floor about
five years ago. The homes Jane works on illustrate her professional touch, but also capture and reflect
the inner spirit of their owners. My space has been transformed into an incredible haven. I am grateful
to live in its beauty and peace.

I enjoyed Thanksgiving with Ted’s family in Columbus, Ohio. Ana (who was two in February) is talking
up a storm. Ally (age 5) proudly took me to kindergarten. Tyler (age 11) had has Christmas list all ready.
The twins were in Florida with their Dad, so I missed them this visit. I spent Christmas with Bill and Sue
and Sue’s family over Christmas.

Please join me in praying for peace in this troubled world.



June and Cliffie spent two weeks in Bermuda over the Easter holiday. You can now reach June Murtha

Words from Ben Murtha –

Too cool.  Can't wait for the tour.  Spent a good deal of time walking Janine and the girls through the house
and it's history which, while I never really gave it a whole lot of thought back then, is really pretty darn awesome!
Thanks for the pics.


From Beth and Tim Smith – “Our big news... Grant Jordan Smith was born on Christmas Day
2004 joining big sister Sophie and Brother Evan”

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Grandpa’s version as Robert L. Engler writes -

We have another grandchild. Beth had a little baby boy born today at 3:36 PM. He was 3 or 4
weeks early but he still weighed in at 6 lbs. 13 ounces and is 20” long. He is pretty good size
for being three weeks early.

Sandy and I were awoken at 1:59 AM by Beth, stating that her water broke and that we should
go up to their house ASAP because they had to go to the hospital. Evan woke up at around
7:00 AM Christmas morning and wanted to see if Santa had come. So Sandy and I got up and we
went downstairs and the children (Sophie and Evan) opened their stockings and presents. We
stayed at Beth’s house until around 1:30 in the afternoon and than we came down to our house
to get ready for Christmas dinner. Around this time Robin came up and took the children back to
her house while we got ready for the gang to arrive.   Needless to say both Sandy and I are very tired.
This was a very unusual Christmas, but a very happy one.



Having done the deed of passing on your request for news, it’s about time we responded.


We’re finishing off our first real winter together here in Ticonderoga. Enid hasn’t missed the
kindergarten children too much. She seems to have enjoyed winter weather, skiing, being near Karen,
Jud and grand-daughter Julia. At about one, Julia has started to walk and talk. We’re able to be there
fairly often to baby-sit and work on Karen and Jud's house.


Steve and Lisa plan an extensive drive across the US and back after she graduates from her Masters
program at Duke in May. They’re planning to settle in the Boston area after the trip. Steve has a job
lined up at Sasaki Associates in Watertown, MA.

We’re making lots of progress on home improvements (Uncle Howard and Aunt Dottie’s old house)
and a classic wood boat.

Come visit.

Enid and Ken



Sandie writes –
Keith and I went to The Gates on Friday. I was amazed at how many people were there on a weekday
(and we had snow on Thursday evening/Friday morning). The Gates were interesting, but maybe not
quite equal to all the hype. However, it was interesting to see and it had been a long time since I had
been in the Central Park. The Gates were a nice orange color and in places with the sun on them, they
were reflected in the water which was really very picturesque. They were selling souvenir photos of
the gates blowing in the wind, which was also pretty to see. There were volunteer workers walking
around with long poles with a ball on the end which they were supposed to use to put the orange gate
back in place if it blew over or got caught on the support; however I never saw that happen. The photos
and sweatshirts were sold by the city (at the edge of the park) with the money going to help with upkeep
for all the city parks. There was a very nice feeling among all the people in the park - visitors taking
photos for others, people chatting with strangers, people watching out for the elderly on some of the
more slippery walks, and everyone being polite and orderly. Doesn't even sound like NYC! They even
had the Carousel running and the restaurant open at the boat basin. Anyhow, the artist is paying the cost
for the Gates (supposedly with sales of his paintings of the Gates). The city is getting the proceeds from
the sale of photos, sweatshirts and other souvenirs, plus all the hotels are full, so I guess it has not been a
bad thing for NYC. I just worry if this establishes some kind of precedent that everybody wants to show
their work in the park or some other public spot.


Sandie also writes that Betsey spent Christmas afternoon with Sandie and Keith and stayed for dinner.
They had a nice visit. Betsey had been down to tour 310 the day before. Apparently Charlie had
negotiated an invite for a short tour for a small group and so Charlie, Chad, June and Betsey
(think that was all) had a tour. Betsey said they had done wonderful things to the house. She drew
some diagrams involving changed stairways, but it is hard to visualize. She said the two children who
live in the house call it "the Grandma's house". There are promises of a future tour, and I really hope
there will be one,

Spring has not really made it here yet to New Jersey. Yesterday, Keith and I were in Pennsylvania
outside of Philadelphia for a three hour garden tour and we froze. Our fingers and toes were so cold,
we decided to stay down there and have dinner so we could warm up! The garden still has some of
the river mud from last fall's flood, but the daffodils and crocus are fighting their way up. Some of
the people whose houses flooded across the river in Pennsylvania are now raising their houses up
on stilts or supports and then filling in the bottom with sort of a pretend basement that will let hopefully
let water flow thru. So far two previously one story houses have been done. I can't imagine what it will
look like if some of the two story brick colonial houses try it.



Peter and Carole had a busy winter.  Enjoyed our visit east to see Gil and Barbara and introduce Carole
to the greater Engler Clan at the terrific party held at the Millers in NJ.  Carole's eldest daughter, Monika,
is expecting a second child in July.  Her son, Avery, is a terrific little blond, blue-eyed boy who recently
spent a week with us while his very active Mom attended the Culinary Institute in St. Helena.  Rob and
family are well in San Diego- Logan is loving school, games, tennis and swimming, and his Brother and
Sister, Charlie and Avery are keeping Rob and Deena very busy.  Scott is traveling a lot, often with his
cousin Randy and Jeremy is busy with work and San Francisco social activities.  I continue to work on
my two books and Carole is busy with her mortgage business.

(L-R) Jeremy, Peter, Carole, Scott & Randy
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Gil writes, it was fun to see all those who made it to the Christmas party at Jeff and Claire's.  It was great to
catch up.  Jeff and Claire, your home is wonderful.  I particularly liked the shop and Barbara drooled over the
greenhouse.  Almost as much fun was the drive home to Virginia with many patches of slick ice on the
interstates in NJ, PA, DE and MD particularly down near Washington's beltway where ice covered 4
lanes north and south for about 4 miles -cars and trucks sliding off the highway right and left.  We
detoured from PA to NJ across the Burlington-Bristol Bridge north of Philly because of a traffic stopping
accident south of the exit for Bristol - long night!

Pictures of Grandma's were certainly nostalgic.  I was really relieved to see the changes in decorating
schemes as a complete restoration to the original I think would have been too much to take.  They have done
wonderful things since Betsey, son Greg and I were given a tour through it when they were just beginning. 
I am looking forward to seeing the final product in person.  Keep us posted!

Sally (Jeff's wife) had a heart attack around Thanksgiving? Apparently she had no warning signs and no family
history, but woke up in the middle of the night thinking she had some bad stomach or other problem. She drove
herself to the hospital, and after they figured out she was having a heart attack, she called Jeff and said I think
you better come down here! She had three stints put in and can't go back to work for awhile. Sally said “she
was going to the doctor several times a week for special cardio exercises.” Other than that, she was home and
getting a bit restless.  Our thoughts and good wishes are with you both.

Worldwide attention was given to New York’s Central Park during the display of Christo and Jeanne-Claude’s
“The Gates”. Several local residents made the trip into New York and Cousin Mary Behr was among those
who actually installed this unique art work. Mary is studying for her MFA in Design and Technology at
Parsons School of Design and she was on the installation crew. Mary writes:

There were 600 installers from all over the world. We worked in groups of eight for six days. The project planners
had allotted five days for installation, but we were so good that it only took four. Then we spend a day cleaning up
the park and the last day unfurling the saffron curtains.

Spending nine hours each day in Central Park was such a treat. It was a pleasure to act as the artists’ ambassadors,
which meant answering every question – and an occasional ‘attack’ politely. Every day, the numbers were the
same: ninety-five heartfelt thanks for all of our hard work, five angry outbursts, three celebrity sightings and one
third grade class who became very attached to us. I loved “The Gates”. I loved the design and the engineering;
I loved the placement that highlighted the winding paths of the park and I loved the carnival vibe that they inspired
in the park. There were four million visitors during the cold windy installation period, up from 750 thousand the
same period last year.

I even loved the ephemeral quality of the project. The Gates was only up for sixteen days. Today, all 7,503 Gates
are gone and will soon dissolve into new items: the steel bases will become rods for reinforcing concrete; the
aluminum corners and base sleeves are to adorn houses as gutters and siding; the vinyl frames will be recreated
as PVC pipe, fences, and tool handles: and the saffron rip stop nylon material will be turned back into thread.

George Randolph Engler has almost finished completely rebuilding his Emerald Hills estate using only the finest
materials indigenous to the region (and some from Home Depot as well). Randy has embraced road biking and
now wears the spandex uniform all the time as a source of pride. He continues to sell used cars online and is
actively looking for love in all the wrong places.

Meanwhile Scott Engler has opened a small chocolate/flower shop in the Castro section of San Francisco and is
training seeing eye dogs in his free time when he’s not working on religious icon pottery projects.


Bruce Engler reports - he is “working on my new log home every day I have off has made me enjoy working
like never before. Brett and I are in an acoustic band together and we are about to record a CD of new original
music.  Brett plays drums, percussion and sings backing vocals, I play guitar and sing”.

It's Brett! Here is my current saga in brief:

I am in nursing school at William Paterson University in lovely Wayne, NJ as I was not enjoying the network
administrator gig that I had been doing for 4.5 years.  I am enrolled in an accelerated program that began last
May 24th and will end on August 15th of this year, but don’t ask me what I plan on doing with it just yet. It
seems that every nurse to whom I speak remembers nursing school with a sense of, as the now late
Hunter S. Thompson would say, "fear and loathing". "So you understand!” I would exclaim. I have never
experienced such a painful academic program in my life, and I have been to school three separate times,
this being the fourth! Am I becoming a pseudo-perpetual student? After this program, I think not!

Otherwise, I am doing OK - not much free time to do my outdoor activities or socialize as much as I would like,
but I think there is a light at the end of the tunnel with all this Chinese bamboo torture (believe me, I am not the
only student that feels this way!). Based on the recommendation of the nursing department, I quit my job and
moved back in to my mother's house. Sounds pathetic, doesn't it, but I am not the only one! It makes
financial sense.

Unfortunately, not knowing I was going to enroll in this program until a week before it started, I bought a new
car February, 2004 (car payments!) and am now paying Cobra health insurance (OUCH!), so living at home
with no money coming in is not a bad deal! Aunt Ruth saved me from a larger debt. I have thanked her more
than once for helping me through this. I don't think I will ever stop missing her. Yeah, life is kind of stressful
right now (isn't it for many of us, though?), but at least I am going to the gym at least twice a week, rehearsing
original acoustic music on the weekend with brother Bruce and two other guys, and even reviving indoor
rock climbing after a six year hiatus! I need to maintain my sanity!

Well, got to go back to the books! Hi to all.



What year is this? Who is this and where is this taking place?
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